5 Ways to Avoid Desperation On your Way to Female Hair Loss Station…
The journey of hair loss can be a long and torturous one. I don’t think you need to hear so much about “how” it feels, but more so what to do about it psychologically speaking. For your own sanity.
Blog posts and rantings of confused and desperate women abound. Sometimes it might be helpful to realise many others might also be facing the same devastating consequences that only fellow sufferers can truly understand, but at some point you will come to the conclusion that replaying and rehashing the same awful angst might be ultimately doing you more harm than good.
Of course acceptance and self-love are fundamental attitudes to adopt, but what are the actionable steps to getting there?
1. Sort out what your feelings are in this dilemma, as opposed to focusing only on the perceived judgements of others. Write those feelings out on paper.
2. Now decide who YOU would be, how YOU would react if you were a complete stranger hearing about all the difficulties another woman has faced living with this condition. Would you be kind? Of course! Sympathetic and loving? Of course! Then quit imagining the opposite kind of encounters or reactions, stop magnifying the possibility of negative encounters in your mind. Dwell on the idea of positive reactions only.
3. Be clear in ADVANCE as to how you would navigate the territory of revealing your condition to those around you. Do you feel safer keeping it a secret between those closest to you or are you OK to reveal all to anyone who you come in contact with? It’s up to you to determine what you feel comfortable sharing. Don’t force yourself into a revelation of this most intimate, physical reality unless you are totally sure they are trustworthy.
4. Make sure you have clear boundaries in your mind (regarding what is acceptable to you with regards to “living” this condition).
“She calmly takes a moment, looks her dead in the eye and answers: “Yes it’s my real hair, I REALLY paid for it! I just cant be bothered doing it myself anymore. Who wants to sit at the hairdresser’s for hours on end?””
Dealing with female hair loss often means experiencing it as extremely devastating and out of our control - giving ourselves a sense of control again, (especially in this regard), is absolutely fundamental to maintaining peace.
5. Make sure you are clear, well in advance, as to what you might say, if perchance, a complete stranger (or coworker) dares to invade your private, personal space with a line of inquiry regarding your hair situation, whatever that might be.
I dealt with some of these possibilities and what might be higher perspectives to maintain instead, in my new novella, Gorgeous Women, because women don’t need the additional psychological suffering caused by ignorant people -especially when they pretend to be interested “friends”.
